Red has always been my favorite color. Like my love of trees, the number 18, and all things a little strange it’s just one of those things that is inherently a part of me.
I am drawn to how it energizes, stirs the blood. It is the color of power, love, passion, violence, seduction, danger, anger, and adventure. To our ancestors it was the color of fire and blood. Life itself in a shade.
Physiologically it can increase blood pressure and respiration. It is a stimulant and induces action. Enthusiasm and confidence, too, see a boost when crimson is in view. In China, it is associated with good luck and fortune. In Russia, the word for red means “beautiful.” To the Hindu it is a symbol of joy and creativity.
There is even a personality profile to which is dedicated one of its four parts. Dr. Taylor Hartman created The Color Code estimating 25% of the population to be red (motivated by power), blue (motivated by intimacy), white (motivated by peace), and yellow (motivated by fun).
Reds are natural leaders. They are assertive, independent, logical, action-oriented, responsible, and decisive. They are the pioneers and change makers of the world. Often those that love the color are entrepreneurs or explorers. As an Aquarius/Dragon/ENTJ this seems to only make sense, but there is beauty in every color. It is the incredible variety and diversity of this world and its inhabitants that make life so rich, but it is the inevitable conclusion that a red will never truly understand a blue that cements this.
It's curious, perhaps a little tragic, but no matter what words you or I use, we will never truly understand one another. My reality will always be just a little bit different from yours. I recently had this experience trying to communicate, to understand, and I finally had to realize that consonants and vowels are only vehicles, the meanings of which are variable. There is no quality control.
As someone who places almost all emphasis on action I genuinely do not understand anything else. As all external stimuli are processed through our own personal associations, my shades of comprehension, which are very different from the next person's, are assigned and sometimes the communication is judged as successful and sometimes it's not. Though this is often how problems occur within relationships be they romantic, peer-to-peer, familial, or otherwise, this is also what keeps interpersonal relations endlessly fascinating.
The Universe, in its impeccable timing, provided a recommendation from a stranger for the book, The Four Agreements, by don Miguel Ruiz as I was dealing with this frustration, and I've found it infinitely helpful. See The Four Agreements below and realize that the next time you feel as though your point is not getting across you can take comfort in the fact that it is most certainly not, at least not in its truest form.
Armed, then, with the knowledge that our understandings of each other will always be a shade off, the principles below should aid significantly in the achievement of near complete peace of mind.
1. Be Impeccable with your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.